The majority of that potential is locked away deep within the recesses of our beings, never to see the light of day. We do not recognize that this potential even exists. Why is that? We do not miss what we are not aware of. When it comes to achievements within our life’s journey we limit ourselves based upon outside stimulation and information. In some societies people are limited by how others categorize them (IE: England, people have a Station in life). The simple fact is, to some degree all countries have this same type of thinking. This way of thinking is staunch and extremely limiting, where only the few are allowed to achieve. If you were born to a poor family and not to a wealthy one and later found wealth; your status still was less than equal. This is the type of limited thinking not only stifles creativity, but prevents people from even attempting to make things better for themselves. We all want acceptance and sometimes in order to get it, we push ourselves down and play the role we are given. We do not look within to find our potential; I’m speaking from experience. My young life was based on the assessment of others. I trusted what I was told and those whom I thought had my best interests at heart. That is what a child does, they trust. The most common reason many grow up to be bitter and angry is because they are reacting to mistreatment as a child. Over the years I have either allowed myself to succeed or fail because someone else told me whether or not I was capable of completing the task successfully.
We were a poor family that had very little luxury, but always had the basics. When I was told in the fourth grade that I had a learning disability and would never be able to retain what I had learned I believed them. After all, they were the educated teachers in the school and new best; right? Wrong! I had grown up believing this and therefore did not apply myself while I was in school. I quit school in the tenth grade and got married. I proceeded to have two children at a very young age.
Then I met a woman that told me that what I had been told was a lie. She said that the only thing that is limited within me is my own way of thinking. She said that I did not have to believe what that teacher said so many years ago, and continued to point out several areas of intelligence within me. She did not ask me to take her word for it; she simply showed me the truth within myself. She said that if the teacher was right I would not have been able to learn and retain these things. After a lot of consideration and soul searching I recognized that this wonderful person was right. At that point I felt a new energy within me, and a new desire to learn all that I could learn. That was a turning point for me. I went back to school and got my diploma, then continued my education through community college, seminars, workshops and private trade schools. I found that I was actually quite smart and when I applied myself, was able to learn a great deal. Not only did I find my intelligence, but I found within myself an ability to apply into life what I was learning. (If you are teaching young minds, please be careful. Assessing through your own learning, the diagnosis of a learning disability leaves room for error. Choosing to inform the child of your findings could have a devastating affect that hinders their growth without even knowing it. You could be wrong!)
When I look at the insecurities and lack of basic education within our children today, I see adults that have blinded themselves to the potential of those children. Parents have allowed teachers and other so called professionals to stymie the growth of our youngsters. How many children do you know that have been diagnosed with ADD/ADHD, and other so called learning disorders? If you were to take a poll at a school, most likely you would find a large percentage of students have some form of learning disability; whether it’s the above mentioned dyslexia, autism, or some other form of behavior that scientists don’t understand.
I tell you this story to make a point. The point is, we don’t believe in ourselves enough to know when we are being told a lie about ourselves & because we were taught limitation for ourselves we pass that teaching on to our children; doing them a great disservice.
I had been lied to and believed it entirely. From that young age my insecurities grew and engulfed my way of being. As a young adult, because of this type of thinking, I brought into my life all sorts of trials and tribulations. It took me years to overcome my insecurities and understand what my time here on Earth is intended for. I have grown and become the person I am today because of these things, not in spite of them. It is important that you understand that. Because I experienced this way of thinking I have gained an understanding around it. Now I see these experiences as opportunities to help others grow as I have grown. The pain, suffering, anger, grief, guilt and shame I felt all those years has now been transformed into Love. Not the kind of love that is physical, no, but a love that is unconditional and lasting. (I speak of a love that the Bible describes as “Agape Love”, God Love). All of the people that took part in my creation as I am today; “thank you”! There is no need for forgiveness, because to think so is to be ungrateful for whom I have become.
I never have been a person looking for wealth; I have always been a person looking for love. I was desperate for it. This was because I didn’t know that what I was seeking was within me all along. I Am Love! I never understood why people are so preoccupied with wealth and status. These things are so fleeting; here today, gone tomorrow. Over the years I have been judged (told I have no ambition) because I was content to live a very simple life without very many luxuries. No, as I said before, my focus was on finding love. I have found it! Now I understand that I am worthy of the luxuries I have in the past denied myself. Even though those things will not bring me happiness, I am worthy of experiencing them. This is my journey and I can create it as I desire. So can you!
This is becoming a long post. I will write more on this subject later. By the way, thank you for reading my blog!